There are five different ways to give and receive love. We tend to give love, as we would like to receive it. However, the person we are trying to love may not receive it in the same way. This makes our efforts frustrating. Therefore it is helpful to understand both how we receive love and give love and how the person we are trying to love receives love and gives it.
If your counselor has asked you to complete the Giving & Receiving Love Inventory
There are four types of love that can be expressed and experienced within a marriage.
In our marriages we want to have as much Agape, Phileo, and Eros love as is possible. We also want to minimize our Storge love as much as possible. An interesting phenomena is, to increase Eros reduce Storge, and to reduce Storge increase Agape and Phileo.
If your counselor has asked you to complete the Love Analysis
People do not change because we want them to. They usually do not change because we ask them to. They only change as we change. This page contains a profile that will help identify how making the necessary changes in you will help to change the one you love.
If your counselor has asked you to complete the Changing Profile
It is often good and necessary for us to get a history of your marriage. While there are many different ways of doing this, having you write one out gives us a chance to see your marriage through your eyes as you see it. In the following page we would like you to write a brief history of your marriage including how you met, the dating time, the early years, the present, and how you see the future.
If your counselor has asked you to complete the Martial History
No matter how well a couple gets along, there are times when they disagree, get annoyed with one another, want different things from each other, or just have spats or fights because they are in a bad mood, are tired, or are upset for some other reason. Couples also have many different ways of trying to settle their differences. This is a list of things that might happen when you have differences. Some questions are about you and others are about your partner.
If your counselor has asked you to complete Conflict Tactics